Self-esteem develops from two pillars: 1) feeling loved and secure and 2) learning how to develop competencies. As a parent/teacher, the first pillar is often the easy part, whereas the second pillar takes time. While encouraging our children by saying “good job” or “wow, you’re already a pro at this” feels natural, we have to be careful not over-praising children as that might harm their motivation thinking “I don’t need to push myself, I’m already good at this”. In this week’s “1 minute Peppy Talk” we’ll help you talk about things we’re good at/not so good at with your kids and how we can help them develop new competencies.
Exercise: Start by talking about things that you think you are good at. Give some examples yourself. Then have your child draw their hand and have them add pictures from magazines and/or draw and paste things that they like to do next to their hand.
Ask: What do you like to do?
- Why do we like different things?
- How come the things we like to do are often the things we think we are good at?
- Can you become better at something?
- Can you change they way you think about something?
Purpose: To practice self-awareness and motivation
Want to experience more? Practicing self-awareness will help your child understand how he or she can overcome challenges in the future, as well as boost his or her self-esteem. Last fall we did a similar exercise that help explain differences. Check it out for more inspiration.