Anger is a feeling we all encounter. Not only can children’s rage make us exhausted but sometimes I feel like I’m out of control. A major part of Emotional Intelligence is to learn how to cope with feelings. Talking about anger with your children will make it easier for them to understand that it is OK to show anger, but there are different things you should never do. By learning what is OK and not, they can prevent their anger from hurting both others and themselves. That is why this week’s “1 minute Peppy Talks” deals with the feeling anger.
Exercise; Talk about different ways one could express anger and let your child come up with suggestions. Write them down and talk about the consequences for each.
Ask; What is inappropriate or not allowed to do?
- What can you do when you’re angry?
- What could be the consequences?
- Is the suggestion detrimental to someone else or myself?
- How do you feel when someone shows their anger in this way?
- What do you do when you’re angry? Are you happy with it?
- How would you like to express you anger?
Purpose; To see the alternative expressions of anger and to practice analyzing the consequences.
Want to experience more? Anger is just one feeling we can encounter. There are many more emotions you can help your child understand and be able to label. It will help them recognize emotions when they appear in real life situations. When they do, they know how to control them better so that it won’t hurt themselves or others. If several feelings are hard to discuss at the same time, here is how you can start one by one.