The things we like and dislike are often connected to what we think we’re good at not so good at. Being self-aware of strengths and weaknesses is good, but it should not restrict us, and especially not our kids. That’s why it is important to discuss self-awareness and self-esteem early on. Simply praising our kids is not enough to boost self-esteem. Kids need to learn that they can become good at things and develop new/old competences. Learning that you can improve will help kids stay motivated and happy, which this week’s “1 minute Peppy Talks” will cover.
Exercise: Start by talking about things you’re good at. “I am good at giving compliments”; “I am good at basketball” etc. Then ask your kids to draw and color their hand on a piece of paper. Help them write down or draw one thing that they like to do in the middle of the hand.
Ask: What did you draw?
- Why did you draw that?
- Why do you think we drew different things?
- Can you like/dislike more than one thing?
- Why do we often like/dislike something that we are good/not so good at?
- How can we become better at something? Will that make us like it more?
Purpose: To explain likes and dislikes and see that we have different preferences.
Want to experience more? Self-esteem is something we have to practice on a daily basis. Another good exercise is talking about your child’s self-image. Go back to The evaluation line we covered a few months back and see if things have changed. Is it possible to change ones self-image?