The human mind works through categorization. Naturally this happens to children too, which is why it is so important not to let labels stick on children. If a child is labelled, it will influence the child’s self-perception and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. “Jon is very hyper-active” becomes “I am hyper-active” in John’s mind and he becomes hyper-active in his behavior. That is why this week’s “1 minute Peppy Talks” is about receiving and giving positive comments.
Exercise; Try and gather the family or play this games with friends. Let everyone think about what is good about their friend/family-member sitting next to them.
Ask; What do you think is good about your friend? You can start by saying “I like this about you…” and allow for each and everyone to say one or several positive things about their friend.
- What did it feel like to be appreciated?
- Was it difficult to be appreciative?
- How do you know that the one saying the positive comments means what he/she says?
- How important is it for you to be appreciated?
- Does it feel differently according to who appreciates you?
- How should you receive positive comments?
Purpose; To practice the ability to both give and receive positive comments.
Want to experience more? Some people find it hard to be appreciative, some to receive appreciation. Try to say one positive thing to each other when having breakfast or dinner and make it a routine for the entire family. Most people appreciate positive comments and it can really boost your child’s self-confidence.