Being able to set goals and dreams is important for any child’s and adult’s well-being. To do so we have to think about our positive qualities, which sometimes can be a bit tricky, especially for children. While we encourage and say positive things to our kids each day, emotional intelligence is also about realizing those things ourselves. That is why this week’s “1 minute Peppy Talks” will help you and your child to develop a self-portrait and talk about the good qualities he or she possess.
Exercise; Start by discussing how you and your child would describe each other and write down two good things about yourselves. If you’re playing with siblings or friends, try and rotate the self-portrait and ask if you can write down two good qualities about your friend/mom/dad. Let everyone write/say something positive about each person in the group.
Ask; What did you and your friends/siblings/parents write?
- How do you perceive yourself?
- What do you like the most/least about yourself?
- What did it feel like to hear positive things from your friends/siblings/parents?
- Where did you feel it in your body?
- What did it feel like to think about positive things to say about your friends/siblings/parents?
- Was the exercise easy or difficult?
Purpose; To be able to see and pass on strength, positive behavior, attitudes and qualities in your friends.
Want to experience more? This exercise can be very difficult for some children as it involves both self-awareness and thinking about the people around us. It might require some practice. A good starting point could be to talk about what your child think of themselves. A couple of weeks ago, I gave some advice on how you could help your child to see himself/herself through the eyes of other, which could be a good starting point before moving on to this exercise.